Assertive Communication: 6 Techniques for Saying What You Mean and Meaning What You Say

Assertive Communication: 6 Techniques for Saying What You Mean and Meaning What You Say

Some mistake assertiveness for aggressiveness- in fact it is quite the opposite. To be assertive is to demonstrate self-compassion, to value yourself and your ideas. Assertive communication is a core communication skill, which can help to improve self-esteem and communicate more directly and effectively with others. It is based on the ideas of mutual respect and accountability....

...Even if you don’t have the confidence to stand up for yourself (yet), here are some ways and techniques you can employ in order to “fake it ‘til you make it”.  You might just find it feels really good. 

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Mental Illness and the Meds: Dealing with Stigma

Mental Illness and the Meds: Dealing with Stigma

I think most of us hate our depression, our anxiety, our insomnia, our PTSD, etc. We not only hate it, but feel shame for being afflicted with it.  This hate is born out of the narrative that our “mental illness” means something is wrong with us. What if our Nervous Depletion/Brain Fatigue is actually a symptom of how ill suited our culture, society, childhood histories or lifestyles are to the bodies and brains we have? 

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Authenticity, Self Compassion, Mindfulness, and the “Gifts of Imperfection”: Book Review

Authenticity, Self Compassion, Mindfulness, and the “Gifts of Imperfection”: Book Review

Last year, I went on a Brené Brown kick, as I like to call it. Her TED talk- “The Power of Vulnerability” was a viral hit, reaching more than 1 million hits on youtube.  I read several of her books, watched her TED Talk, and went to see her speak when she came to Seattle. I couldn’t get enough of what she had to say, it resonated deeply with me. There were so many ways I was sabotaging myself and preventing myself from being entirely authentic with others and myself.

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Sinking in Sadness, Swimming in Self-Compassion

Sinking in Sadness, Swimming in Self-Compassion

You’ve most likely heard of a P.D.A. (public display of affection) but have you heard of a P.D.S.? I found myself experiencing one last week unexpectedly at a YMCA during an aquafit class. P-D-S: Public Display of Sadness. There I was in the middle of a pool with happy, chatting, splashing Seniors when a huge wave of sadness washed over me about an impending loss of a loved one in our family

I looked around, initially feeling embarrassed and hoping none of these fellow exercisers would notice me. Then I looked for the nearest pool stairs in case I couldn’t pull it together and needed to quickly make an exit mid-class. Next came my strategies to redirect my thoughts and use my mindfulness techniques to bring me back to the ‘here and now’.


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The Parent Trap: Wading Through Your Parent Guilt

The Parent Trap: Wading Through Your Parent Guilt

1137 days into the parenthood experience and I still face the persistent internal battle of "Parent Guilt".  Before becoming a parent myself, I had always somehow attributed that term to neglectful or distracted parents.  Because after all, isn't that what the mind does to avoid pain- put things into neat categories.  Little did I know how universal it was until eight weeks after returning to work from paternity leave, when I began to feel this indescribable gnawing feeling in my gut.

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