The Addict in Each of Us

The Addict in Each of Us

Addict is such an ugly-sounding word. It suggests weak-willed, bad people and an immitigable sense of shame. 

Addiction is not about a particular substance or behavior—those are merely symptoms of an underlying issue—it’s about a maladaptive pattern of coping and an aversion to being authentic and vulnerable. This is partially why “dry drunks” and other addicts who equate abstinence with recovery tend to have such a high risk of relapse—abstaining from a problem substance or behavior does not get to the root cause of the addiction.

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Sinking in Sadness, Swimming in Self-Compassion

Sinking in Sadness, Swimming in Self-Compassion

You’ve most likely heard of a P.D.A. (public display of affection) but have you heard of a P.D.S.? I found myself experiencing one last week unexpectedly at a YMCA during an aquafit class. P-D-S: Public Display of Sadness. There I was in the middle of a pool with happy, chatting, splashing Seniors when a huge wave of sadness washed over me about an impending loss of a loved one in our family

I looked around, initially feeling embarrassed and hoping none of these fellow exercisers would notice me. Then I looked for the nearest pool stairs in case I couldn’t pull it together and needed to quickly make an exit mid-class. Next came my strategies to redirect my thoughts and use my mindfulness techniques to bring me back to the ‘here and now’.


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Book Review: "Wonder" by RJ Palacio

Book Review: "Wonder" by RJ Palacio

A book review by Sierra Sanchez, MS, LMFT

How a book about starting middle school relates to every stage in one’s life. 

“The best way to measure how much you've grown isn't by inches or the number of laps you can now run around the track, or even your grade point average-- though those things are important, to be sure. It's what you've done with your time, how you've chosen to spend your days, and whom you've touched this year. That, to me, is the greatest measure of success.”

 --RJ Palacio, Wonder

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